The anger that shows up in perimenopause isn't a personality change. It's a neurological event. Here's what's actually happening — and how to stop feeling like a stranger in your own body. Perimenopause Rage Is Real — And It's Not What You Think It Is You snapped at your partner over something that objectively didn't matter. You sat in a meeting and felt a wave of anger so disproportionate to what was happening that you scared yourself a little. You cried in your car because